Our care group is covering a series taught by Andy Stanley from North Point Church called breakaway. Basically it addresses the overwhelming feeling of "sameness" that we experience as we realize how average we really are. So many people find themselves trying to breakaway by running away only to find that in the next experience they are getting the same results. Of course, the common denominator is YOU. So if YOU are the reason for your same results then it is time to re-evaluate. Most of us feel that our poor outcomes are from poor decisions which is true, but he is challenging us to dig deeper and realize that our decisions are made due to our beliefs. That is the faulty part when we are experiecing unwanted outcomes. So here is the basics:
Now, I gave you all of that background so that I could make this one point that was such an "AHA moment" for me. As christains we even skip the belief part when trying to reach out to others. We bring others to church and encourage them to make "right" decisions because that is what christians do. Of course, that leads to frustration and exactly why so many won't come to church. They see it as a place that tells you "what not to do" and "what you have to do". Instead we should be helping them to transform their beliefs so that they see clearly (through God's eyes) and will want to make good decisions. Romans 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. I am afraid that is why we struggle to "church" others. It is not about transforming their decisions first so that they fit into our molds and can sit neatly next to us in the pew, but that they renew their minds so that they see that the will of God is good. We also discussed that "renovation" is messy. It takes a long time to get the old stuff out and the new stuff in. I'm afraid that we sometimes give up on others too early when it gets messy. Any thoughts?